For Parents Only: Getting Inside the Head of Your Kid by Shaunti Feldhahn & Lisa A. Rice

For Parents Only: Getting Inside the Head of Your Kid
Shaunti Feldhahn & Lisa A. Rice
Multnomah Books (2007)
ISBN 9781590529324
Reviewed by Regan Windsor for Reader Views (6/08)


“Happy the generation where the great listen to the small, for it follows that in such a generation the small will listen to the great.”

– An Ancient Hebrew Proverb

Authors Shaunti Feldhahn and Lisa Rice take a unique approach in “For Parents Only” by going straight to the subject matter experts on the minds of teens – teens!   Combining results from their nationwide survey with their own real-life experiences they manage to bring the data to life in a way that can be almost revolutionary for some parents – not because of any earth-shattering finds; it is the subtle ah-ha moments that strike the reader.

“For Parents Only” provides some strong, solid messages for deciphering what your teen is thinking versus what logic might dictate your teen might be thinking.  Above all, however, the underlying message is to listen to your kids, try to understand what lies below their message, and understand they appreciate your boundaries no matter how often they test them.

I like to think of “For Parents Only” as a field guide to the teenage years…one I will continue to reference again and again; sometimes for advice but mostly to remind myself to listen, to pay attention, and above all to ensure they feel the love and support they need to get through these confusing and often heartbreaking years.

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