Bluehen Books (2021)
Reviewed by Lily Andrews for Reader Views (08/2021)
“Future Widow: Losing My Husband, Saving My Family, and Finding My Voice” is a deeply moving memoir by Jenny Lisk. The best-selling author brings readers into her life as a caregiver to her husband, Dennis.
Having noticed subtle memory loss and confusion that got markedly worse over the course of a week in him, they visit a medical practitioner who diagnose Dennis grade 4 glioblastoma, an aggressive brain cancer that cannot be fixed. This begins her difficult journey of taking him through surgeries, hospital stays, ER visits, medications. Further, the author takes readers through her journey as a widow, helping her children cope with the loss of her father and her struggle to pull through the pain, agony and eventually take control of her life.
I admired how the author puts all her emotions in words. One almost feels they are on a journey with her, imagining the intensity of the situation, the despair and pain of the eight months she had to endure seeing her husband in pain. It is almost impossible not to get emotionally connected with this memoir.
“Future Widow” takes an in-depth look at what immediate family members of a terminally ill patient go through- the confusion, the period of grief, and the various seasons of healing. Expressing her daily events and grueling months at the Caring Bridge website, a personal health journal, rallying friends and family during any type of health journey, gave her some sense of comfort and her friends’ support kept her going during some of the difficult moments.
This touching and poignant tome prepares one for any uncertainty in the future. It makes one not feel alone in the face of adversity and encourages the celebration of little wins during difficult times. Jenny Lisk has a wonderful way of painting a picture through her words. The book is divided into three parts, each excellently and concisely written with a diction that is fitting for this type of memoir. The writer hopes to inspire many to rise above their trying circumstances and provide a place to turn to as they seek solutions and healing.
“Future Widow: Losing My Husband, Saving My Family, and Finding My Voice” has an appealing book cover and the colors, distinctively chosen, serve as a hint of the information explored in the book. This thought-provoking and absorbing text is a suitable survival guide for anyone seeking the strength to face each day. I appreciate the author for telling her story so bravely.