Memoirs of a Wannabe Sex Addict
Fanny Press (2010)
Reviewed by Tiffany Schlarman for Reader Views (07/10)
“Memoirs of a Wannabe Sex Addict” chronicles the journey of one woman’s sex-capades. In search for something else she is not yet sure of, Julia’s life follows a distinct pattern of sex, drugs and alcohol. Each chapter is dedicated to a section of her life. The men they are attached to are not as important as the path and journey she is taking. Julia explores men and women, submission and dominance, as well as prostitution and commitment. Each exploration has ups, downs and tidbits of wisdom to help her understand herself as well as others. The question is, which one is for Julia?
The chapters of this book are entitled by their meanings and characteristics. For example, as “The Slave” Julia learns she is afraid of love or being loved. In this chapter sex is harsh and abusing. Both she and her partner use each other to abuse each other. They bring out the worst in one another. Each experience helps her to grow up and learn something about herself. In the end, past aside, Julia is able to find her true happiness and the love she has been fighting because she never thought it possible.
This book is skillfully written. Julia is brave to open herself to the world and bare her story. The erotic passages of this book take you out of your element. It is as if you are there and it is not Julia who this story is unfolding on. The chapters are written to enable you to see her excitement, fear, pain, insecurities, strengths and weaknesses as well as lessons she learned. With each new chapter, you are painfully aware that these sex-capades are pleasurable and non-pleasurable abuse to her body. Drugs and sex go hand in hand for Julia, and rarely does she have one without the other. “Memoirs of a Wannabe Sex Addict” sheds light on real issues, real people and real sex. Julia does a wonderful job of portraying all three, as well as hoping that others find their way just as she has.